Category Archives: be happy

Things to Pack for Bordercon

In a couple of weeks, we’re going away to spend a few days with friends, playing boardgames.

It must be time to get my packing list together.

So far, it looks like this:

I feel this list needs to grow.


Posted by on May 23, 2012 in be happy, friends, games


Conversations with my daughter. With a die.

When we were in Germany we picked up our fair share of odd and conceivably useless items. Among them was a pair of “activity dice”. The idea is that you roll one die to tell you what to do and another to tell you when to do it.

Personally, I would be keen on dice that told me to “Stay in bed” “always” or “Win the lottery” “tonight” but these generally have more productive things like “Ride your bike” “this afternoon” and “Gardening” “tomorrow”.

Last night I found a third activity die that didn’t belong with the others. So I picked it up and took it to the dinner table – and attempted to use it to give my kid some instructions. She doesn’t listen to me but I thought she might be a convert to following the Rule of the Die. Specifically:

The die says "Ins Bett Gehen"

Go to Bed!

She giggled. Then she picked it up and rolled it:

The die says "fernsehen"

Watch TV!

So I had to let her watch Star Wars: The Clone Wars. My glorious scheme was foiled!

This got me thinking about what I would put on activity dice if I made my own.

For the girls there would be:

  • Clean your room
  • Do your homework
  • No really I mean it
  • Stop re-rolling
  • Put away your laundry
  • Snuggle with mum

And for me there might be

  • Clean the house
  • Do some work
  • Stop procrastinating
  • Step away from the computer
  • Go do laundry
  • Ride your bike

But I would prefer it to say

  • Dance in the rain
  • Try on shoes
  • Buy something sparkly
  • Frock up, just because
  • Go to IKEA for a nap
  • Cook something delicious

What would you put on your activity die?


Posted by on May 17, 2012 in be happy, children


Shoes – parte deux

I’m feeling a little shoe love over in the comments on my last post. Thank you to everyone who has shared their shoe stories 🙂

Until about five years ago, I had almost no shoes. My feet are broad and hard to fit, and all the shoes they made in my size were made for nannas who liked bowling. Or The Queen, who may not have broad and hard-to-fit feet but who likes the kind of shoe that is made for them. Beige with buckles is really not my thing – although apparently just about everything else is.

(Having typed that, I Googled “shoes beige buckles” to look at the images. And there are no Nanna-shoes there! Even when I added “Grandma” on the end, I still didn’t see the sort I was thinking of. “Old lady shoes” works, though.)

And – well – then I discovered that there were a couple of local shoe shops that sold shoes in my size! PRETTY shoes in my size!

And along the way, I may have got a little carried away.

Casual, Rubber-soled Flat, dressy Heels Boots Sandals
White 1 1
Pink. Or Purple.
1 1 1 1 1
1 1 1 1
Beige. Or Brown. Or Taupe.
1 1 2 1
Black. Or Grey. 2 2 4 2
Navy blue.
1 1

The really awesome thing about that matrix? Is that I have something in EVERY COLUMN for pink or purple (and I only have one pair of purple shoes). And I also have a pair of pink fluffy slippers, as of Wednesday night.

And oh phew. Because I mis-counted when I scrawled this matrix on the tram, and I thought I had 31 pairs of shoes. And then I found one I’d missed and I was a little embarassed, thinking I had more than enough shoes to wear a different pair every day of the month. And Fraser was giving me not a little grief about it. But I don’t.

Also, many of my shoes come with AWESOME STORIES. Like:

  • The $350+ pair I got OMG FOR FREE. Because they were on sale at $49 and I had a $50 off voucher and thought I would be cheeky and ask if I could use it and the woman said ONLY FOR ONE PAIR so of course I went and bought another pair for $49. Because, $350 shoes! For $49! And for free! That was $700 of shoes for $49! Even better than $350 of shoes for free, apparently.
  • And the boots that are not Yuck after all. Even though the sales woman kept telling me they were. Eventually I realised that she just had a very thick accent and was trying to tell me they were made of YAK. They are furry on the inside and when I wear them, I speak to them with a thick central European accent.
  • And the fuchsia snakeskin patent leather shoes which are just amazing because FUCHSIA. And SNAKESKIN. and PATENT. I’m on my second pair and they were the last pair left in that style and they were IN MY SIZE AND REDUCED TO $49. Which is apparently my Magic Shoe-Shopping Price.
  • And the grey suede boots that are so awesome that a woman felt me up in Kmart the one and only time I wore them. There is no more to this story. It was surreal. She complimented me on my shoes then grabbed my bum. (They are actually the aforementioned FREE PAIR which has two stories about it. I can DINE OUT ON THESE SHOES.)

It’s time to accept that I have a shoe problem.

I noticed last week that my go-to pair of slate grey work shoes is looking a bit ratty. It must be time for a replacement.


Posted by on May 3, 2012 in be happy, shopping



I surveyed my Facebook friends this week, about how many pairs of shoes might be considered “too many”. The verdict was that most are too disinterested to respond.

Of those that did, however, the general consensus was FIVE.

That’s right. Five pairs of shoes is too many.

I think even Fraser has five pairs of shoes. See diagram below. Almost.

In fairness Kathy went to 10, and Mousey even allowed up to 15. But that was the highest anyone went, even though I tried to skew things by offering increments up to forty.

Dear Friends,

You suck at validating my shoe fetish.

Love, Melissa xxx

I got excited and drew some Matrices. To represent the Need For Shoes.

Here is Fraser’s:

Casual, Rubber-soled Flat, dressy Heels Boots Sandals
White Runners
Black Work shoes Crappy sandals
Brown Hiking boots

4 pairs.

OK let’s try the kids.


Casual, Rubber-soled Flat, dressy Heels Boots Sandals
White Runners
Black Dressy shoes
And another more casual pair on order
Ugg boot style things. She wears them as slippers. Bought in Albury last year when she was hideously sick & couldn’t keep warm.
Brown Everyday shoes. Kind of groovy. A pair my mum bought her that probably don’t fit any more
Green Everyday shoes. Soft and fairly worn.

Note please the count: 7 pairs of shoes. Owned by one of the people who said 5 pairs was too many. QED.


Casual, Rubber-soled Flat, dressy Heels Boots Sandals
White Runners (they are purple too)
Black School shoes
And another pair with gold bits
Purple Last year’s boots. Tragically, probably outgrown.
Gold and silver Can I count 2 pairs of Jiffys here? She wears them as slippers at school and everything.

Yah. Not so great. Not really breaking any records there.

My matrix – once created – turned out to be a really good way to keep a log of all my shoes. A LOG OF MY SHOES. Which is itself one of those statements that suggests that the two shoe shops and I should perhaps have a parting of ways – for a time, anyway.

It is also a pretty fabulous way to frighten Fraser.

But I may never live it down.

And so – having set the scene – I will try my poll again.


Posted by on May 2, 2012 in be happy, shopping



Otto's drawing: I love you mum

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Posted by on March 29, 2010 in be happy, children, parenting


It’s all in the name

We are now a 4-iPod house.

The main one, Fraser and I bought together, when we first dipped our toes into the world of iPod. It is called iTinkerbell.

Then I got sick of carrying iTink, and bought a little (first generation) Nano to carry. And it is called, simply, iLissa.

So today I picked up an iPod Touch (gift! OMG! *smoochies*) and a very pink Nano, to round us up to four. They are called, quote appropriately, iTouchLissa (blush) and iPinkThereforeiAm

I have NEVER been one to name cars. So it surprises me how much joy I get in finding the very perfectest name for these items.

Also? OMG you can play LEMONADE TYCOON on iTouchLissa. I am sure there are many other wonderful apps, but I am enjoying remembering just how banananas it drove me.


Posted by on April 30, 2009 in be happy, not your earth logic



We had a bizarre videotape accident, which led to taping over the first episode of Mad Men. We didn’t notice until we sat down to watch it tonight.

In one of those happy coincidences, though, there was something English and slightly surreal on the telly. 

Go, people. Go now.

Go and rent, borrow or steal * the movie Hot Fuzz

I guarantee, you will not be disappointed. **


* Stealing is not an option this establishment endorses or condones.
** Bemused and a little weirded out, possibly. But therein lies the true greatness of this very very surprising fillum.


Posted by on April 18, 2009 in be happy, movies